i've thought long and hard about whether or not to write this diary. it is personal to me. very personal.
some on this site object strenuously when kossacks who are facing real trouble have fundraisers done to help them. i've contributed to those in need and have been in need, myself, so i have a rather unique perspective to offer.
first, let me state up front that i do not understand those who want to prohibit others from extending a helping hand to those in need. i really don't understand what it "costs" someone who disapproves (and, yes, it is a judgement being made) of those who offer to help.
this diary is an attempt to understand why coming to the aid of another person is so upsetting to some on the site - upsetting to the point that those who object would rather see someone suffer rather than have another lend a helping hand.
i'm open to learning why those feelings exist - and i'm here to state that the community of users here who come to the aid of those in need are one of the reasons i'm here - whether it is a political candidate, someone who needs words of encouragement and support during illness, loss, pain - or financially.
if you will, please hear me out across the orange divide.